Gail Lukasik
Chicago, IL
Author, writer, editor, and college lecturer
BOOK COVER
BOOK DETAILS
Pub Date: November 26, 2024
Genre: Family Relationships
Publisher: Skyhorse
Page Count: 240
Format, ISBN, Price:
Hardcover, 978-1510780187, $32.99
Ebook, 9781510781139, $21.99
Watch Gail on:
- Megyn Kelly Today: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oNiEBnOzgVw
- HP’s History of Memory: The Secret Album https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCvfqryi9W8
- BBC’s Outlook https://www.bbc.com/news/av/world-us-canada-56652064
- On Point TV Carlette Christmas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cQrCI1TQwDI and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9qnB85QIMw&t=17s
ABOUT THE BOOK
After Gail Lukasik’s acclaimed book White Like Her: My Family’s Story of Race and Racial Passing was published, the global media attention it garnered brought the author something besides book sales: Gail learned that she is part of an ever-expanding community of people who have discovered that they, or their families, are not quite who they had thought. From that growing group comes this brand new collection of stories of people uncovering their undisclosed pasts.
What They Never Told Us tells the stories of ordinary people who made extraordinary, life-changing discoveries about their parentage and/or race and ethnicity that fractured their identities and prompted two fundamental questions: Who are we? And what exactly is family?
Blending social history and personal narratives, each story delves into the devastating psychological trauma of uncovering a hidden family secret with all the twists and turns of a mystery novel, starting with how the discovery was made; to why it was kept secret; to the arduous, sometimes disappointing, quest to find a biological parent or parents. To fully understand the secrecy surrounding these family secrets, the book examines pre-WWII and post-WWII attitudes toward infertility, adoption, donor conception, race and racial passing, and unmarried pregnant women.
Prefacing these harrowing narratives is the author’s own confusing and sometimes painful journey to redefine her racial identity under the spotlight of public opinion. Searingly raw and honest, What They Never Told Us brings to life a powerful collection of stories that were never meant to be heard.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Gail Lukasik is a freelance writer, editor, college lecturer, and the author of the bestselling book White Like Her: My Family’s Story of Race and Racial Passing, which the Washington Post named “One of the Most Inspiring Stories of 2017.” Gail has appeared on PBS’s Genealogy Roadshow, BBC World News, and NBC’s Megyn Kelly Today. She is also a contributor at the Washington Post and the author of several mystery novels, including three with the ongoing character Leigh Girard and two standalones: The Lost Artist and her first gothic, historical The Darkness Surrounds Us.
TALKING POINTS
- How consumer DNA tests and genealogy websites have outpaced our ability to deal with the consequences of discoveries regarding parentage, relatives, and/or race and ethnicity. About 38% of the estimated 100 million Americans who have taken a consumer DNA test have had unexpected results, and why that should matter
- The emotional and psychological impact of betrayal, deception, and finding out that you’re not who your parents told you, whether for individuals, families and communities
- How identity-changing discoveries force you to rethink your place in your family and the world, as well as beliefs about race, ethnicity, and religion
- The many personal stories in the book that exemplify such discoveries and related issues
- Gail’s own confusing and painful journey to redefine her racial identity
- The context of pre-WWII and post-WWII attitudes toward infertility, adoption, donor conception, race and racial passing, and unmarried pregnant women
- New support groups and organizations that help people cope with these identity shattering discoveries
- The lack of research, protocol, and treatment to assist people like the ones in the book as they process such identity information and resulting trauma
TIMELY TIE-INS
December
- National Roots Day – 23
January
- New Year’s Day – 1
- National Mentoring Month
February
- Black History Month
- World Day of Social Justice – 20
March
- Women’s History Month
- International Women’s Day – 8
- National Genealogy Day – 9
- National Write Your Story Day – 14
- International Day for the Elimination of Social Discrimination – 21
April
- National Siblings Day – 10
- National DNA Day – 25
May
- Mother’s Day – 11
PRAISE
Praise for What They Never Told Us:
“Delightfully readable and timely . . . [Lukasik’s] compassionate voice elicits confessions of the heart from her interviewees on topics few of us share readily . . . You will never look at family, ethnicity, or belonging in quite the same terms again.”
—Michele Kriegman, 2024 American Jewish Press Award-winner, author of The Birth-Fathers’ Club Series
“Powerful . . . [Lukasik] deftly uncovers the complex layers of racial identities that have long been buried in the American experience. Blending a deeply personal narrative with an investigative dive into often surprising oral histories, Lukasik challenges everything we think we know about America’s past, reminding us that nothing is ever quite as it seems.”
—Sarah Klein, Director, Redglass Pictures
“A remarkable book. In her ability to make people feel comfortable in sharing their stories, Gail Lukasik explores how individuals and their families deal with family secrets of race, ethnicity, and adoptions. Through these stories, Gail beautifully guides us through her subject’s feelings of pain, identity loss, trauma, and their journey toward self-reclamation. What They Never Told Us brings to the forefront that these stories are more common than not and the courage it takes to confront these secrets and embrace the truth.”
—Tim Russell, VP of Community Engagement and Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion at WTTW, PBS member station in Chicago
“Lukasik’s writing is masterful, inspiring, and fearless…. In her new book, What They Never Told Us, she explores the lives of ordinary people [and]… uncovers family secrets that were meant to stay hidden.”
—Kenyatta D. Berry, author of The Family Tree Toolkit and host of PBS’s Genealogy Roadshow
“High caliber writing enriches these powerful and poignant narratives, which unearth sealed records, reveal ghost fathers, and give meaning to lives shattered by secrets.”
—Judy Carmack Bross, Editor, Classic Chicago magazine
“Lukasik unveils hidden truths about identity, race, and family heritage that resonate with anyone curious about their roots. I was captivated by how she skillfully intertwined her own story with those of others, adding a personal touch that made the exploration even more insightful. It’s a book that stays with you, making you reflect on the complexities of your own identity long after you’ve turned the last page.”
—Tom Mason, Director, Redglass Pictures
Praise for previous book, White Like Her:
“Lukasik takes us inside her family story, revealing that her own mother chose to live as a white woman. Lukasik, bravely and eloquently, writes with a researcher’s eye and a daughter’s heart. In righting her own history, Lukasik graciously affords us the opportunity to right our own.” —Goldie Taylor, editor-at-large of the Daily Beast
“Meticulously researched . . . Offers new insights into issues surrounding the complex history of racial passing in the United States . . . a narrative made compelling by her deeply felt emotional responses as she excavates her own heritage. This is a book which will elicit much discussion among diverse audiences, adding, as it does, to the too often elusive American tapestry.”
—Ronne Hartfield, author of Another Way Home: The Tangled Roots of Race in One Chicago Family
“Important in helping us understand America’s complex racial history . . . Adds to the ongoing conversation about race and racial identity in America because it looks at the ramifications of institutionalized racialism and racial passing through one family’s story.”
—Kenyatta D. Berry, Host of PBS’s Genealogy Roadshow
“Lukasik, with the persistence and canniness of the sleuths as the detective novelist she sometimes impersonates, explores how complicated race is in America.”
—Randy Fertel, author of The Gorilla Man and the Empress of Steak: A New Orleans Family Memoir
BOOK DETAILS
Pub Date: May 17, 2022
Genre: Memoir / Christian Inspirational
Publisher: She Writes Press
Page Count: 304
Format: Paperback
ISBN: 978-1647429003
Price: $15.99